PATHWORK: Friendly Curiosity towards Present Reality by Mary Anne Bourque

March 12, 2019 | By More

Have you noticed that when change happens in your life, a period of confusion, sometimes distress and often deep questioning surfaces? You may begin to question who you really are. The changes in your life —children leaving home, change of boss or change in things that were previously interesting and satisfying for you – leave you with an empty feeling.  This can lead to insecurity and sometimes significant anxiety. A heaviness sets in, leaving you with a sense that your life is out of control. I know this feeling all too well.

When life, my life, seemed to be going in a direction that spiraled with a sense of despair, loss of control and overwhelm, I wanted to just give up. The life I was so used to, with its predictability and a sense of meaning, was no longer there. I felt completely out of balance. I blamed others for this upset in my life. I even tried very hard to get back to the old way. Now when I look back, I see that I would repeatedly land back in the same place— with more hopelessness each time. 

Oddly, when I stopped and asked “What is REALLY going on? Can I be with what IS?” I began to feel a difference in myself. 

This may sound strange, but engaging with these empty, confusing feelings is the first step to opening into a new way of BEING in life. The moment you inwardly and fully allow your circumstance to be what it is, you are actually in a movement towards being — being your true self. You begin a path of self-finding, self-honesty, self-discovery.

It all begins with an attitude of curiosity about what’s really going on right NOW.
Join me, at the next Pathwork Open Lecture, in an exploration of “Being with what IS “, with the intention of living your real life. We will reflect on the guidance provided in Pathwork Lecture 105: Humanity’s Relationship to God in Various Stages of Development.

“If you are unwilling to live through and be in your present confusions, errors and pains, facing and understanding them, you cannot ever be in God. Or to put it in other words, you cannot be in a state of happiness, peace, creativity without strife if you do not face the temporary, often unpleasant reality.” L105

This is the topic for the next Pathwork Open Lecture, Wednesday, March 20, 7 to 9 pm at Saint Paul University, 233 Main Street.  All are welcome. Follow the signs to the room. 

There is a suggested donation of $15 for nonmembers; $5 for members.

The Pathwork lectures are available for free download from

For further information contact Jean at or 613-829-1254.

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