“Me and My Shadow”

February 11, 2018 | By More

by Rev. Roxanne Buckle, Unity Spiritual Centre Ottawa


In Unity we often say, we are spiritual beings having a human experience. We do this to remind ourselves that at the core, we are of divine essence and that our essential, divine nature is the non-physical part of us that is eternal, unchanging, whole and infinite. It is of the same power that created the world and it is within ourselves right here, and right now.

So why are we not living fully from that realization?

What happens is that as part of our normal human development, aspects of our whole, essential selves become hidden.  These hidden parts are called our shadow side. It is a natural part of the human process, that our ego—or that part of us that we show to the world— forms as we develop strategies to belong, to fit in, to please, to protect ourselves. Yet, in order to heal and transform, we must discover these hidden parts of ourselves and shine the light on them.

For example, growing up in a family  that valued education and hard work (not of itself a bad thing!)  as a developing human who wanted to fit in and please, I repressed that aspect of myself that wants to play and have fun and frolic and enjoy life for no other reason than for enjoyment.  For me, I spent years judging others for engaging in pleasurable pursuits.

It takes a tremendous amount of energy to push down and deny awareness of our shadow self and it limits our expression of living to its fullest. Unconsciously, it is  like holding a beach ball under water. and when we are stressed or tired the shadow (or beach ball)  pops up out of the water, in another location,  as a projection on another person or situation.  It is time to  bring into the light of awareness that which we have denied about ourselves so we can step into a more expanded version of our true self.

I believe it is our evolutionary task at this juncture to reclaim our whole self and unlearn what we created to keep our shadow self from awareness. We begin by reclaiming the lost parts of ourselves–our shadow self, by  recognizing what is in the shadow and by finding  appropriate ways to claim, it express it and integrate it. Come join us in the process of unlearning at Unity.

Here’s to welcoming the shadow into the light.  Namaste.   


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