Keeping the Doors Open

September 23, 2017 | By More

“The need to interact is deeply ingrained in our genetic code. So much so, that the absence of social connection triggers the same, primal alarm bells as hunger, thirst and physical pain.” – John Cacioppo (Professor, founder and director of the Centre for Cognitive and Social Neuroscience at the University of Chicago)

Human beings are not designed to be solitary; we naturally evolved to survive in communities or tribes. Yet, I  frequently  meet clients who experience a sense of loneliness in their lives. It is a sad predicament and a feeling difficult to overcome. Our mind is powerful and can provide us with good reasons to stay away, to keep our heart closed and to keep the doors of intimacy and tenderness shut. It feels safer, but ultimately lonely. Even within the field of spirituality we may be able to find good reasons to stay secluded, admittedly or not. Those closed doors can protect unhealed wounds and we can live an entire life carrying them.

There is, however, a natural process of releasing resentment, hurt and, negativity. With the ability to be present, to experience love and kindness from a non-judgemental perspective, we can honour our feelings and learn to access a deeper, freer part within us.

Judgement is often at the base of those closed doors. We judge ourselves or others, and in doing so we close ourselves, emotionally become unavailable or simply stay aloof. I’ve realized this very principle in my own life. A subtle way to find reasons to close myself up to the world, experiencing shyness as a young woman and feeling helpless.

I have learned that it is easier than I thought to add to my life a positive, warmer perspective. I realized that dropping judgements enabled me to be truly present, receptive and more appreciative. Then the doors of kindness and love are able to  stay calmly open.

I was thinking recently about the transitory nature of life. Watching the news, a violence we can’t easily conceive of in our context, I saw a soldier aiming at another individual and shooting him. I saw a stranger fall. I thought that it can happen to anyone at any time, no matter what the cause of death is. All of a sudden our individual path and story here on earth as it is can come to a full stop. Thinking about this possibility during my meditation I could feel how trivial resentments are, how sad it is to live a life separate from others and it made me feel like opening my doors even wider. From that standpoint, nothing else matters. Love nourishes the soul, our own and that of others. Love heals the body and mind as it is of the essence.

Contact us to book a session with Lynne. Her gentle skillful presence can guide you towards a new refreshing life. If you choose to add hypnosis to your session, you will experience a gentle and effective way to empower your objectives.

Lynne Cardinal holds client sessions in Hull and Stittsville. She has offered Stress Management, Resilience and Burnout Prevention workshops in the government and private sectors for over 30 years. She is also a Consulting Hypnotist with the National Guild of Hypnotists, holding additional certifications in Hypnosis Innovative Techniques and Weight Loss. She is certified by Dr. Weiss in Past-Life Regression and she has a PhD in Eastern Philosophy from India. She has studied extensively with Thomas Hübl on Transparent Communication and Principles of Transformation and Healing and Trauma work, and she has also trained with Diane Hamilton in Conflict Resolution and with Diana Martinez on Family Constellation. For more information call 613-836-2355 or

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