Interview with Diana Martinez Morales

May 14, 2018 | By More

PART II Psychotherapist, Constellation Facilitator B.A. in International Relations, M.A. in Humanities and Ph.D. in Philosophy and Ethics

by Lynne Cardinal

Diana Martinez Morales, Ph.D., is coming back to Ottawa in June for a third time. Morales is offering The Power of Transformation and Healing Through Family Constellations workshop. I used this opportunity to ask her a few questions.

…Continued from Tone’s April issue:

Lynne: How do we need to prepare before the workshop?

Diana: Just be aware of what comes up before coming to the workshop. Honor your feelings and trust in the process. Come relaxed, open minded, we can even say curious, as the experience is very deep.

Lynne: Who should volunteer to do their constellation?

Diana: Not everyone has to volunteer; by just attending we can get the insights that we need. Yet the ones who have issues and need support and wish to volunteer can do so. By choosing to attend the workshop means something in you wants to heal. Not just something related to your family, but perhaps also within your community or country. You may have challenges at work and this process could help. We could actually call it Systemic Constellations because we all belong to systems, or to a collective group, not only to our own family.

Lynne: So wherever I go I deal with constellations with different people who bring their own issues. How can we deal with this?

Diana: Just like you bonded within your family of origin you will bond with different people. So those will be your patterns.  Revise three basic principles: 1. Belonging; 2: To Take and Give; and 3: Hierarchy. How do those principles live in you? How is your sense of belonging? Do you feel separate, shy, excluded? How is your ability to take and give? Sometimes it is easier to give than to receive and this reflects patterns that are limiting. What role do you have in your family, have you become the mother of your mother? Or her friend? Yet when our true place isn’t honored this generates issues that are problematic. So depending on how these three principles live in you they will enact themselves when you are with people. As a result, you will tend to bond according to your patterns.

Lynne: You may bond more with some than with others?

Diana: Yes, and this could be based on a trauma resonance, but also through your own ability to belong. You are likely to bond as you did in your family of origin. Once you recognize your patterns they can be transformed or healed.

Lynne: Isn’t it natural to want to reach a higher more fulfilling level of existence. We have an impulse to evolve, to have access to a bigger paradigm, more awareness, more love, more joy.

Diana: You can expand as much as you belong and this can be based on the safety you experienced in your family of origin. Truth is, unless you work on your base, which means on your early years or on your origin, you cannot move forward. If you are trying to move forward this will be difficult if you have a shaky base. For example, if a tree doesn’t have deep strong roots it will fall. To reconcile with your past will help you move forward. Constellations help by humbling us, making us aware that our parents were also children. Maybe it’s not just about me, I may have been loved in a limited way because my parents had their own issues, which may originate from transgenerational patterns. If you have a reconciliation with your past you can start to belong. Then you heal your past, rewriting the past in a way.

Lynne: Thank you Diana! I am grateful for the clarity that you bring to us and I hope that many will join us on June 2nd and 3rd at St Paul University in Ottawa. For more details and to register go to Eventbrite under Constellations with Diana Martinez or call 613.836.2355 for more details.

 

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